^if he is such a violent person, jealous and so controlling, that you couldn't choose the music you listen or were afraid he got angry when you go to school, it was the best decision. It will hurt for some time, but at the end you'll be happier. Take care.
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@Zenika.
When I was 16 (a VERY long time ago), I had a girlfriend who was very controling, jealous and violent. She didn't even like it if a female singer was on the radio and if a TV show or movie had even partial female nudity in it she became violent. She would embarrass me in public by punching or kicking me or grabbing my hair. One incident she got so bad in a club that someone called the police who wanted to arrest ME! They refused to believe that a woman could be the agressor until several witnesses (mostly female) demanded that they let me go and they told the police what actually happened and they just left!
I put up with this for nearly two years before I walked away.
Someone that hits you doesn't love you. Someone that frightens you doesn't love you. Someone who controls you doesn't love you.
As you said, the breakup is painful now but that will pass. You did the right thing. Far too many poor dead girls didn't.
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Not much to say that wasn't already said, so I'll settle for being crass: fuck that guy, good riddance."Which is better, eternal happiness or a ham sandwich? It would appear that eternal happiness is better, but this is really not so! After all, nothing is better than eternal happiness, and a ham sandwich is certainly better than nothing. Therefore a ham sandwich is better than eternal happiness."
- Raymond M. Smullyan
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^I think this TED talk might be interesting to some you and AiH: http://www.ted.com/talks/leslie_morg...ms_don_t_leave"Which is better, eternal happiness or a ham sandwich? It would appear that eternal happiness is better, but this is really not so! After all, nothing is better than eternal happiness, and a ham sandwich is certainly better than nothing. Therefore a ham sandwich is better than eternal happiness."
- Raymond M. Smullyan
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Hi guys! It's been a hell of a busy week, and only halfway to the weekend. :P So. Multi-quote time!!
Originally posted by The Rose View PostThat grey will go well with my new scarf I bought in Lübeck, which is grey on one side, black on the other and the edges are burgundy-red.
Do you guys think more of a beanie style or slouchy style for the hat? Something with a rim? Thoughts? They will be for everyone after all, so I don't mind input on the pattern...
Originally posted by The Rose View PostBut most importantly: Take care of yourself, concentrate on finishing your studies and think of all the time you'll have after it's over.
So many plans...so little time...
Originally posted by The Rose View PostI'm worried about my mother, since she's been alone she shows increasing signs of dementia, maybe my stepfather kept that from us, and now she is also loosing her sight, we hope the last thing can be somewhat helped with an operation, but it's not easy when she is living alone and even when the very helpful neighbour looks in on her every day and help her shopping and remind her of doctor's appointments etc. (we couldn't get by without that neighbour, as my stepsister lives in another part of the country and I live two hours away on public transport - I don't ride a car). So every time my phone rings at odd hours I worry it might be bad news. So I stress a bit, which manifest as a feeling of being tired all the time, even if I just got out of bed,
Well I hope at least work tapers off in the coming weeks and that I'll find time to go see my sister for a couple of days. Next weekend I'm going to the town of Odense to meet up with some of my photo-group. That will be a nice break from the worries.
What sort of community resources are available for assistance? Sort of agencies that have people who go around and visit with people who need extra assistance, but not necessarily the funds to pay for regular home care? Or maybe assistive tech devices to help her cope with losing her sight? Do you have assisted living type places where people still live relatively independently but there are staff members available to check on them or assist as needed? I hope she will be ok and that you are able to relax and have a good visit with your sister
Originally posted by Maya View Post@ER What about a R+ minion hat?
Originally posted by Maya View PostAbout selling them, it was a suggestion, there will come a time when you won't know what to do with them. At the moment, it's much better giving them to family and friends and of course the relaxing part of crocheting, there was a time that I used crossed stitch for that, it made me felt much better (I've got an alphabet half done, I should finish it).
Originally posted by ZenikaI broke up with my boyfriend week ago and that was my best decision for a while. We lived together and he was so controlling and violent person. I have not been this happy for a long time, of course the broke-up hurts but I love this relaxed feeling I have now. He even didn't let me listen Rammstein because he got jealous. Now I can go to school without fearing that he might get angry and so on.
Originally posted by Snake View PostNot much to say that wasn't already said, so I'll settle for being crass: fuck that guy, good riddance.
Originally posted by Snake View Post^I think this TED talk might be interesting to some you and AiH: http://www.ted.com/talks/leslie_morg...ms_don_t_leave
EDIT: And I missed a quote I wanted to touch on. @ AiH- I recently saw an article about male rape victims and the difficulty they face having to bear the burden of "proving" they are victims in a society that dismisses the possibility out of hand. While not exactly the situation you described, your saying how the cops wanted to arrest you even though it was the girl who was being abusive made me think of that article.
I'm very happy for you that you were able to get away from her, and I agree that healing hurts and does take time.
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And I've got Stuart and a mutant minion, notebooks, covers, a minion pendrive...
Why not a hat?
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That would be pretty amazing, I have to admit...
And now I'm thinking I should figure out how to crochet flames for around the bottom of the hat...
Geez.
Actually. If I can figure out how to make the flames and the + it would probably work out perfect. I could make the Minion's eye the + and with flames around the bottom where they have the blue stripe...
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Originally posted by EmeraldRose View PostWhat sort of community resources are available for assistance? Sort of agencies that have people who go around and visit with people who need extra assistance, but not necessarily the funds to pay for regular home care? Or maybe assistive tech devices to help her cope with losing her sight? Do you have assisted living type places where people still live relatively independently but there are staff members available to check on them or assist as needed? I hope she will be ok and that you are able to relax and have a good visit with your sister
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Originally posted by The Rose View PostThere is some one from the council coming around in the morning to help her out of bed and washed, plus they help a little with cleaning the flat. They don't have assisted living, and she is to well for a nursing home, but if she is found to have dementia they have a special team that comes to her home and will help her to stay in her own place for as long as possible, and there is medicine to keep her from getting worse. But after all, she is 85 so I guess that's what is to be expected.
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